"You are the only one who can make you happy." We have all heard that so many times in our lives.
There are times it is a pretty tough pill to swallow. In reality, the people that surround you have a huge impact on your current mood. When your children are grumpy in the morning, you find a nice pile the dog left you over night, you hit the road and the traffic won't allow you your normal speed, then when you get to work and your co-worker called in sick... these are all things that might contribute to your overall Happiness of the day.
However, moods and temporary emotions are not the same as happiness. Happiness exists when you look at the overall picture of your life and you smile, that is happiness. You know those times when you can't wait for your children to go to bed, then later you check on the kids and you almost cry because they look exactly like angels... YOUR ANGELS, sleeping so sweetly and soundly. You can hardly remember a time of irritation with them. That is Happiness.
As life progresses and changes, we realize that who we are, (what makes us, us)... that is what we are responsible for. We know that immediate gratification or irritation only pacifies or deteriorates our emotional stimuli short term. Our global view of how we see ourselves determines our state of mind. Our state of mind determines our Happiness.
So, how do we take control of our emotions and find the path of Happiness? This seems to be the million dollar question. There are tons of books on or related to the subject. You could read and practice until you are completely confused. Or, we could spend the rest of our life introspectively evaluating what makes us happy. Which might take more time and energy and actually frustrate us more.
How
Maybe the issues are more personal or internal. Do you get mad too easily? Learn yoga or meditation. Are you having marital problems? Visit a counselor. Are the kids having discipline issues? Determine the major issues, establish guidelines on how you are going to correct the problem and stick to it.
You may be saying, 'Sure, that sounds so easy but...' Of course it sounds easy. Problems are always easier to talk
If your unHappiness stems from a situation beyond your control then find other ways to compensate. If, for example, money is so tight and no apparent windfall is coming your way any time soon, find inexpensive entertainment. Backyard ballgames, picnics in the park, movie night with popcorn and snacks in your bedroom are a few alternatives to an expensive night out. If the issues are more serious and you feel powerless, that is the time to seek professional help.
Otherwise, look in the mirror and be glad. If you don't like what you see, change it. Make the solution that simple!
相关单词：irritation
irritation解释：n.激怒，恼怒，生气
irritation例句：
He could not hide his irritation that he had not been invited.他无法掩饰因未被邀请而生的气恼。
Barbicane said nothing,but his silence covered serious irritation.巴比康什么也不说，但是他的沉默里潜伏着阴郁的怒火。
相关单词：immediate
immediate解释：adj.立即的；直接的，最接近的；紧靠的
immediate例句：
His immediate neighbours felt it their duty to call.他的近邻认为他们有责任去拜访。
We declared ourselves for the immediate convocation of the meeting.我们主张立即召开这个会议。
相关单词：pacifies
pacifies解释：使（某人）安静( pacify的第三人称单数 )； 息怒； 抚慰； 在（有战争的地区、国家等）实现和平
pacifies例句：
A gift given in secret soothes anger a bribe concealed in the cloak pacifies great wrath. 暗中送的礼物，挽回怒气。怀中搋的贿赂，止息暴怒。
相关单词：deteriorates
deteriorates解释：恶化，变坏( deteriorate的第三人称单数 )
deteriorates例句：
After a few years' planting, the quality of the potato crop deteriorates. 土豆种了几年之后就会退化。
Virus activity deteriorates in plasma stored at room temperature. 在室温下储藏的血浆中病毒活动逐渐衰退。
相关单词：stimuli
stimuli解释：n.刺激（物）
stimuli例句：
It is necessary to curtail or alter normally coexisting stimuli.必需消除或改变正常时并存的刺激。
My sweat glands also respond to emotional stimuli.我的汗腺对情绪刺激也能产生反应。
相关单词：frustrate
frustrate解释：v.使失望；使沮丧；使厌烦
frustrate例句：
But this didn't frustrate Einstein.He was content to go as far as he could.但这并没有使爱因斯坦灰心，他对能够更深入地研究而感到满意。
They made their preparations to frustrate the conspiracy.他们作好准备挫败这个阴谋。
相关单词：decided
decided解释：adj.决定了的，坚决的；明显的，明确的
decided例句：
This gave them a decided advantage over their opponents.这使他们比对手具有明显的优势。
There is a decided difference between British and Chinese way of greeting.英国人和中国人打招呼的方式有很明显的区别。
相关单词：alterations
alterations解释：n.改动( alteration的名词复数 )；更改；变化；改变
alterations例句：
Any alterations should be written in neatly to the left side. 改动部分应书写清晰，插在正文的左侧。 来自《简明英汉词典》
Gene mutations are alterations in the DNA code. 基因突变是指DNA 密码的改变。 来自《简明英汉词典》
相关单词：meditation
meditation解释：n.熟虑，（尤指宗教的）默想，沉思，（pl.）冥想录
meditation例句：
This peaceful garden lends itself to meditation.这个恬静的花园适于冥想。
I'm sorry to interrupt your meditation.很抱歉，我打断了你的沉思。
相关单词：marital
marital解释：adj.婚姻的，夫妻的
marital例句：
Her son had no marital problems.她的儿子没有婚姻问题。
I regret getting involved with my daughter's marital problems;all its done is to bring trouble
相关单词：counselor
counselor解释：n.顾问，法律顾问
counselor例句：
The counselor gave us some disinterested advice.顾问给了我们一些无私的忠告。
Chinese commercial counselor's office in foreign countries.中国驻国外商务参赞处。
相关单词：compensate
compensate解释：vt.补偿，赔偿；酬报 vi.弥补；补偿；抵消
compensate例句：
She used her good looks to compensate her lack of intelligence. 她利用她漂亮的外表来弥补智力的不足。
Nothing can compensate for the loss of one's health. 一个人失去了键康是不可弥补的。
相关单词：popcorn
popcorn解释：n.爆米花
popcorn例句：
I like to eat popcorn when I am watching TV play at home.当我在家观看电视剧时，喜欢吃爆米花。
He still stood behind his cash register stuffing his mouth with popcorn.他仍站在收银机后，嘴里塞满了爆米花。
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