From my perspective, once you enter into the realm of marriage, building and maintaining a successful marriage is actually a big part of personal and financial success. A solid marriage not only results in people sharing resources together, but a marriage also provides a lot of emotional support, cheerleading, and encouragement to succeed.
What follows are twelve little things I do quite regularly in my marriage. Please, use as many of these as seem reasonable.
I tell my wife I love her every single day. I usually do it in the morning before she leaves the bedroom, and on weekdays I'll also tell her when I see her in the evening for the first time. I usually couple(加倍,成双) it with a kiss. It's so simple, but it's a constant reminder of the fact that I do love her, no matter what.
I ask
I try to surprise her on a regular basis. I'll spend an hour preparing a really excellent supper when she doesn't expect it. I'll spontaneously give the kids a bath when she's comfortable on the couch under a blanket, even if it's her turn. Doing these little unexpected things not only shows her I care, but also often compels her to do similar things for me.
I hold her hand. I do this all the time, whenever it crosses my mind and seems appropriate. I'll just hold her hand gently while we're talking or we're riding in the car or we're waiting for an appointment or we're sitting on the couch in the evenings.
I talk
I work on building a positive relationship with her family. Whenever I visit or see anyone in her family, I make a special effort to try to establish or build upon a strong relationship with them. This accomplishes several things: it makes her more at ease in a family situation, it helps me to build stronger ties with people that are
I send her messages during the day.
I put careful thought into gifts I give her. Sure, it's easy to just run out and get a generic gift to cover yourself during an anniversary or a birthday. However, a gift with some real thought behind it means substantially more than an obviously off-the-cuff gift.
I encourage her to follow her passions and interests, even if they don't inspire or interest me. If my wife chooses to spend significant time on a project, it's obviously something that's
If she needs me, I willingly contribute to(有助于,贡献) those passions. If something genuinely excites her and she wants me to experience it, I willingly involve myself in whatever it may be: a particular type of art, a craft project, a yard project, whatever. Even if I don't enjoy it, I do have the opportunity to learn more
I look for opportunities to build mutual(共同的,相互的) friendships. The idea that there is a group of people that are "my" friends and another group that is "her" friends can be a big dividing factor between us. Instead, I often focus on building friendships and relationships that we share with others so that something of a community of friendship and love grows up around us.
I hold her every night, even if it's just for a moment. I might be completely exhausted when I go to bed in the evening, but I take a moment to move close to her, put my arm around her, and hold her close, even if it's just for a minute or so. That moment of physical contact(身体接触) to end the day is a simple sign of love.
相关单词:reminder
reminder解释:n.提醒物,纪念品;暗示,提示
reminder例句:
I have had another reminder from the library.我又收到图书馆的催还单。
It always took a final reminder to get her to pay her share of the rent.总是得发给她一份最后催缴通知,她才付应该交的房租。
相关单词:vent
vent解释:n.通风口,排放口;开衩;vt.表达,发泄
vent例句:
He gave vent to his anger by swearing loudly.他高声咒骂以发泄他的愤怒。
When the vent became plugged,the engine would stop.当通风口被堵塞时,发动机就会停转。
相关单词:spontaneously
spontaneously解释:ad.自发地
spontaneously例句:
We decided spontaneously to board a train for Geneva. 我们自行决定搭乘去日内瓦的火车。
Opportunities for learning occur spontaneously every day. 学习的机会每天都会自然而然地出现。
相关单词:couch
couch解释:n.睡椅,长沙发椅;vt.表达,隐含
couch例句:
Lie down on the couch if you're feeling ill.如果你感觉不舒服就躺到沙发上去。
The rabbIt'sprang from its grassy couch.兔子从草丛中跳出。
相关单词:generic
generic解释:adj.一般的,普通的,共有的
generic例句:
I usually buy generic clothes instead of name brands.我通常买普通的衣服,不买名牌。
The generic woman appears to have an extraordinary faculty for swallowing the individual.一般妇女在婚后似乎有特别突出的抑制个性的能力。
相关单词:passionate
passionate解释:adj.热情的,热烈的,激昂的,易动情的,易怒的,性情暴躁的
passionate例句:
He is said to be the most passionate man.据说他是最有激情的人。
He is very passionate
相关单词:mutual
mutual解释:adj.相互的,彼此的;共同的,共有的
mutual例句:
We must pull together for mutual interest.我们必须为相互的利益而通力合作。
Mutual interests tied us together.相互的利害关系把我们联系在一起。
相关单词:exhausted
exhausted解释:adj.极其疲惫的,精疲力尽的
exhausted例句:
It was a long haul home and we arrived exhausted.搬运回家的这段路程特别长,到家时我们已筋疲力尽。
Jenny was exhausted by the hustle of city life.珍妮被城市生活的忙乱弄得筋疲力尽。
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