别人是你的一面镜子

The first time you meet someone, in the first moment you form an impression in your mind of that person. Your reactions to other people, however, are really just barometers（气压计） for how you perceive yourself. Your reactions to others say more about you than they do about others. You cannot really love or hate about yourself. We are usually drawn to those who are most like us and tend to dislike those who display those aspects of ourselves that we dislike.

 

Therefore, you can allow others to be the mirror to illuminate more clearly your own feelings of self-worth. Conversely, you can view the people you judge negatively as mirrors to show you what you are not accepting about yourself.

 

To coexist peacefully（和平共处） with others, you will need to learn tolerance. A big challenge is to shift your perspective radically from judgment of other to a lifelong exploration of yourself. Your task is to assess all the decisions, judgments you make onto others and to begin to view them as clues to how you can heal yourself and become whole.

 

I recently has a business lunch with a man who displayed objectionable table manners. My first reaction was to judge him as offensive and his table manners as disgusting. When I noticed that I was judging him, I stopped and asked myself what I was feeling. I discovered that I was embarrassed to be seen with someone who was chewing with his mouth open and loudly blowing his nose. I was astonished to find how much I cared about how the other people in the restaurant perceived me.

 

Remember that your judgment of someone will not serve as a protective shield against you becoming like him. Just because I judge my lunch partner as offensive does not prevent me from ever looking or acting like him. In the same way, extending tolerance to him would not cause me to suddenly begin chewing my food with my mouth open.

 

When you approach life in this manner, those with whom you have the greatest grievances（抱怨，不平） as well as those you admire and love can be seen as mirrors, guiding your to discover parts of yourself that you reject and to embrace your greatest quality.

相关单词：barometers

barometers解释：气压计，晴雨表( barometer的名词复数 )

barometers例句：

Fixed cistern barometers are used as a standard for checking aneroid barometers. 固定槽式气压计可以作为标准件去检验无液气压计。

Fixed cistern barometers are used as a standard for checking. 固定槽式气压计可以作为标准件去检验。

相关单词：drawn

drawn解释：v.拖，拉，拔出；adj.憔悴的，紧张的

drawn例句：

All the characters in the story are drawn from life.故事中的所有人物都取材于生活。

Her gaze was drawn irresistibly to the scene outside.她的目光禁不住被外面的风景所吸引。

相关单词：illuminate

illuminate解释：vt.照亮，照明；用灯光装饰；说明，阐释

illuminate例句：

Dreams kindle a flame to illuminate our dark roads.梦想点燃火炬照亮我们黑暗的道路。

They use games and drawings to illuminate their subject.他们用游戏和图画来阐明他们的主题。

相关单词：tolerance

tolerance解释：n.宽容；容忍，忍受；耐药力；公差

tolerance例句：

Tolerance is one of his strengths.宽容是他的一个优点。

Human beings have limited tolerance of noise.人类对噪音的忍耐力有限。

相关单词：radically

radically解释：ad.根本地，本质地

radically例句：

I think we may have to rethink our policies fairly radically. 我认为我们可能要对我们的政策进行根本的反思。

The health service must be radically reformed. 公共医疗卫生服务必须进行彻底改革。

相关单词：judgment

judgment解释：n.审判；判断力，识别力，看法，意见

judgment例句：

The chairman flatters himself on his judgment of people.主席自认为他审视人比别人高明。

He's a man of excellent judgment.他眼力过人。

相关单词：judgments

judgments解释：判断( judgment的名词复数 )； 鉴定； 评价； 审判

judgments例句：

A peculiar austerity marked his judgments of modern life. 他对现代生活的批评带着一种特殊的苛刻。

He is swift with his judgments. 他判断迅速。

相关单词：acting

acting解释：n.演戏，行为，假装；adj.代理的，临时的，演出用的

acting例句：

Ignore her,she's just acting.别理她，她只是假装的。

During the seventies,her acting career was in eclipse.在七十年代，她的表演生涯黯然失色。

相关单词：grievances

grievances解释：n.委屈( grievance的名词复数 )；苦衷；不满；牢骚

grievances例句：

The trade union leader spoke about the grievances of the workers. 工会领袖述说工人们的苦情。 来自《现代英汉综合大词典》

He gave air to his grievances. 他申诉了他的冤情。 来自《简明英汉词典》

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