1. "You never do the dishes. You always just leave them sitting there."
The dishes are a placeholder for pretty much anything here. Whatever the issue, using accusatory blanket terms like "never" and "always" tends to end the same way every time: with you and your boo engaged in an overblown argument. Plus, there's a good chance your generalization is wrong, said Samantha Rodman, a psychologist in Takoma Park, Maryland.
2. "You sound exactly like your mother."
When arguing, stick to the issue at hand and keep the focus on the two of you. Introducing nasty comparisons to your in-laws is unfair and ultimately a diversion from your problems, said Sharon Gilchrest O'Neill, a marriage and family therapist and the author of A Short Guide to a Happy Marriage.
3. "You think you're better than everyone else!"
Never put words in your partner's mouth or in this case, thoughts in their head. There's no way of knowing what someone is feeling or thinking, so keep the assumptions to yourself, said Becky Whetstone, a marriage and family therapist in Little Rock, Arkansas.
4. "Do I look like I've put on weight?"
"What you really mean by asking this is, 'I know I've put on weight. I'm unhappy
5. "Have you put on a few pounds?"
Blunt, negative remarks to your spouse
6. "You're a horrible parent, breadwinner, lover..."
Put-downs centered around your spouse's family or occupational roles are particularly cruel, said M. Gary Neuman, a psychotherapist based in Miami Beach, Florida.
7. "Ugh, I hate when you do that." (Said in front of friends or family.)
Putting your spouse down in front of others is a huge no-no in a relationship, said Whetstone.
8. "I barely know him -- he's just someone I work with."
It's almost inevitable that you or your partner will develop a small, innocent crush on someone at some point during your marriage. If that happens, be upfront
Though it may be an uncomfortable subject to broach, ultimately, Wahlgast said being transparent
9. "You shouldn't feel that way."
There's nothing more belittling or condescending than telling your spouse what he should or shouldn't be feeling in any given situation, Rodman said.
10. "Don't wait up for me."
This seemingly innocent remark suggests you're not going to bed at the same time, a habit that can be damaging to your relationship, said Wahlgast.
相关单词：generalization
generalization解释：n.普遍性，一般性，概括
generalization例句：
This sweeping generalization is the law of conservation of energy.这一透彻的概括就是能量守恒定律。
The evaluation of conduct involves some amount of generalization.对操行的评价会含有一些泛泛之论。
相关单词：spouse
spouse解释：n.配偶(指夫或妻)
spouse例句：
Her spouse will come to see her on Sunday.她的丈夫星期天要来看她。
What is the best way to keep your spouse happy in the marriage?在婚姻中保持配偶幸福的最好方法是什么？
相关单词：inevitable
inevitable解释：adj.不可避免的，必然发生的
inevitable例句：
Mary was wearing her inevitable large hat.玛丽戴着她总是戴的那顶大帽子。
The defeat had inevitable consequences for British policy.战败对英国政策不可避免地产生了影响。
相关单词：broach
broach解释：v.开瓶，提出(题目)
broach例句：
It's a good chance to broach the subject.这是开始提出那个问题的好机会。
I thought I'd better broach the matter with my boss.我想我最好还是跟老板说一下这事。
相关单词：transparent
transparent解释：adj.明显的，无疑的；透明的
transparent例句：
The water is so transparent that we can see the fishes swimming.水清澈透明，可以看到鱼儿游来游去。
The window glass is transparent.窗玻璃是透明的。
相关单词：taboo
taboo解释：n.禁忌，禁止接近，禁止使用；adj.禁忌的；v.禁忌，禁制，禁止
taboo例句：
The rude words are taboo in ordinary conversation.这些粗野的字眼在日常谈话中是禁忌的。
Is there a taboo against sex before marriage in your society?在你们的社会里，婚前的性行为犯禁吗？
相关单词：belittling
belittling解释：使显得微小，轻视，贬低( belittle的现在分词 )
belittling例句：
We must be realistic in our self-estimation, neither being conceited nor belittling ourselves. 我们对自己的估计应该实事求是， 不要自高自大，也不要妄自菲薄。
I find it belittling to be criticized by someone so much younger than me. 有个比我年轻许多的人批评了我，我觉得是小看了我。
相关单词：condescending
condescending解释：adj.谦逊的,故意屈尊的
condescending例句：
He has a condescending attitude towards women. 他对女性总是居高临下。
He tends to adopt a condescending manner when talking to young women. 和年轻女子说话时，他喜欢摆出一副高高在上的姿态。
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